Take a step back, breathe and put things into perspective. Why are we chasing something that is unattainable?
Sometimes you have to stop and say “hey, wait a minute. Is this really what I want? Am I heading in the right direction?”
The eternal pursuit of happiness is nothing more than an illusion. I’m not talking from a philosophical viewpoint, but from a practical one.
If we’re going to go after something, why not make it something that is attainable and that makes a difference in our lives?
For a long time I thought I needed to get happiness from outside of myself. Sure, I had times where I felt better than others, but they always passed.
Life is cyclical in nature, and so is everything else on our planet. Perhaps it is not happiness we should seek, but peace. The search and pursuit of happiness may look innocent, but it can lead to greed, war and depression.
To be at peace, your expectations have to be fluid. There will be ups and downs in your life. Expect them and realize that they are a part of being human.
There is no good without bad. There can be no forward without backward.
Having proper expectations simply means that you have an accurate view of reality. It does not mean that you’re cynical. It means that you’re prepared. Whenever I’m creating something, like my books. I accept the fact that no one may buy them.
I am okay with that. I don’t expect massive success right away. If it comes, that’s cool, but growth almost always happens when we are faced with adversity.
So in essence, we should be thrilled when problems come our way. There are times when I am excited about my problems.
You may feel like your problems are stuff you’d like to get rid of, but think about the lessons they bring. If the going gets tough, I think about how it will feel when I have solved them and learned from them.
Life is a rollercoaster ride. The rollercoaster ride in and of itself does not have any meaning until you enter the picture.
Some people, like me, enjoy riding all kinds of rollercoasters. The thrill of observing yourself while being scared out of your mind is fascinating.
Then there are some people that think rollercoaster rides are horrible. The same goes for life. Two different people can experience the same situation, but come out of it with two different meanings.
Life is what you want it to be. Sometimes it’s negative, sometimes it’s positive. When you can accept life with its ups and downs, you will be one step closer to peace.
I still remember being 16 and embarking on the path of personal development. It all started when I got interested in lucid dreaming.
After that I slowly went to meditation and one thing lead to another. It’s been almost eight years of constantly growing and challenging myself.
When I look back, I realize that I was a completely different person back then. I see the hardships I went through and I see the growth that occurred during those periods.
The first few years were tough and painful. I had to release a lot of beliefs that weren’t serving me. I am still constantly improving myself, but as I’ve shifted my beliefs to more positive ones, I no longer resist change as much.
I know how hard it is to stay aware when you’re going through what seems to be the biggest emotional storm of your life, but you don’t have to be aware all the time, you only have to do your best.
You will have times when you’re pushing yourself too hard. That’s a part of the learning process; at least it is for me.
It is all too easy to get caught in the drama of life. The little details suck you and you don’t even notice it.
The more you breathe, stay present and look at life through a lens of curiosity and adventure, the more fun you will have.
While total happiness may not be possible, total peace is.
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