You’re doing your best.
You’ve put in the work.
You’re trying to figure this following your passion stuff out.
But things aren’t going according to plan. You look at everyone else, and they seem to be farther along.
Then you start to doubt yourself …
What if you’re not cut out for this?
What if you can’t do what you love?
What if you have to settle for a mediocre life?
It may feel like you’re going insane. But you’re not. There’s nothing wrong with where you are. It just takes time to do what you love.
Why Doing Work You Love Takes Time — The Video
So why does it take time?
And what can you do about it?
The answer is in the video below. And one you’ve finished watching, continue reading the rest of this article for an even deeper perspective.
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Life has its own schedule.
We want to push, manipulate, and force. We think it’ll get us what we want faster.
The problem isn’t that doing work you love takes time; it’s that we expect it not to.
We want to build a six-figure business in 6 months, to be crystal clear about our passion today, and to get a book deal yesterday.
And when you throw your fears into that mix, it becomes a cocktail of stress.
You create a virtual reality where you think you have to measure up to be okay. You have to prove yourself. You have to make things happen.
And you feel like you can’t stop, because everything will fall apart.
But everything is already falling apart. It’s when you stop the madness that things begin falling into place.
The answer is to stop fighting life.
It’s not a problem unless you tell yourself that you should be somewhere else.
I’ve come to accept that I am where I am, doing the best I can with what I have.
I know I’m trying too hard when I feel frustrated, overwhelmed, or anxious. I can’t control life. I can only live life.
I still have thoughts about wanting to accomplish more. My mind believes that if I can just achieve more, I’ll be happy.
But that’s a lie.
I don’t have to take my thoughts so seriously. Instead, I can take one tiny step at a time, and enjoy what’s already here.
An Example from My Life
I started Wake Up Cloud in December of ’09.
The early years were filled with both anguish and excitement. I started by sharing what I knew. Eventually I realized I wanted to turn this into my full-time thing.
That’s when I started forcing, but it always blew up in my face. It was like trying to push a balloon with a needle.
Today, I look back and I see how futile it was to try to ‘go out there and get things done.’
It may work for some, but for the vast majority of people it doesn’t. Not according to my experience.
The more I relax, the more things come to me. And from those things I choose the right ones by what feels most alive to me, what my inner GPS nudges me toward.
And that’s one of the reasons I’m able to do work I love today.
Doing work you love takes time, but that doesn’t mean you have to postpone your enjoyment.
I enjoy writing, and I’m writing this article right now.
I’m doing what I love.
I could lament about how I could be better, or I could simply enjoy this moment.
So while this all takes time, there’s no need to worry so much about it. No need to take yourself, or your thoughts, so seriously.
Do what you can with what you have.
And let all those worrisome thoughts pass by.
Cheers from the North,
P.S. Would you like to dive deeper into doing what you love? I invite you to check out my book Do What You Love: Essays on Uncovering Your Path in Life.