Why Life Doesn’t Turn Out the Way You Want

Have you noticed that your life doesn’t always turn out the way you want?

In fact, more often than not, you don’t get what you want.

Or… You don’t get what you think you want.

This is a good thing.

It’s life nudging you in the right direction.

It’s life showing you where you need to grow.

But before we get to that, let’s ask ourselves an important question.

Why is Life So Hard?

When life continually keeps throwing a wrench into our plans, it can feel unfair, but let’s explore this a bit deeper.

If I look back at my life, I see that it was a blessing in disguise when things didn’t go according to plan.

As the years passed, this turned into the realization that I didn’t have a clue about what I wanted, or what was good for me.

So when life feels hard, it’s an invitation to go within.

There is often an alternative path or viewpoint that is being neglected.

Living the Unplanned Life

What if you let go of needing life to look a certain way?

This doesn’t mean you never improve life. It means you notice that, yes, you can have a direction, but ultimately you notice where life is nudging you.

You realize that you don’t know everything.

You begin to wonder: What is life asking of me right now?

Begin to listen to your intuition, instead of your mind. What feels magnetic right now?

What would you like to explore even though it may make no logical sense?

Begin Right Here

When you notice yourself getting caught up in thought, return to this moment.

Feel your feet. Notice your breath going in and out. See the colors around you. Listen to the sounds.

And feel the feelings in your body that have been avoided for so long.

This may seem counter-productive, but the feelings we avoid drive our thinking. Notice when you feel something, you almost instantly start thinking about it.

It’s a distraction.

If you allow the feeling to be there and become curious, you discover that it has something to say.

There’s nothing dangerous here.

The Bottom Line

When life doesn’t go your way, look at what it’s trying to tell you.

Be playful.

When life doesn’t turn out the way you want, feel the disappointment, and anything else that’s there.

Begin to tune in to what feels alive right now.

Focus on tiny steps without expectations of where it may lead. This is living in the present moment, just enjoying what is here.

What if this was enough?

Be well,
Henri

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