Do you sometimes wish you could forget about your dreams of building your own business and living the life of your dreams?
Does it seem easier to forget it all rather than to dive into the unknown?
There are people all around us living location independent lives and doing work they love.
For a long time, I looked around and I wondered why the grass always looked greener on the other side. A common mistake people make until they realize that it’s not true.
This perspective kept me caged for years. I didn’t feel good about myself, because there was always someone better than me. But was there really, or did my thinking make it so?
I often feel, even to this day, that I don’t have enough connections, talent, or money. But I’ve become aware of the fact that it doesn’t really matter.
Now, why do I say that?
Let’s stop and think about it for a moment, shall we?
What happens when you think that you don’t have what you need to build an online business around your passions?
You feel helpless and hopeless.
And you still want to build a business, right?
… So basically your main options are to feel bad, or take action anyway and figure the rest out as you go along.
I opted for the latter road, and it worked. I don’t focus on influential connections, talent, or money, and I do just fine.
This doesn’t mean I don’t make influential connections, it just means I don’t try to force them.
If I stop and let my fears take over, I know that I’ll regret it, so I don’t.
But I didn’t always have this courage to move forward. I was once a beginner and I still feel like one from time to time.
It’s not about perfection, it’s about progress.
Why Do You Think You Need Talent, Money, And Connections?
When I grew up, the people around me kept putting down successful people.
I was told that the rich and successful were lucky, had talent, connections, or a lot of money. At a young age, it seemed like I could never become truly successful, because I didn’t have any of those things, or I thought I didn’t.
People told me that it was okay to settle for mediocrity, because not everyone could have what they wanted. I believed that for a long time.
You have to be careful with what you take in, because people will try to hypnotize you all day long without even knowing about it.
They have good intentions, but they are not aware of the damage they are doing. Their truth is often a distortion of reality and may not even apply to you.
For example, where did you pick up the fact that you need something you don’t have in order to do what you want?
Think about it for a second. How have you been perceiving this to be true?
Haven’t you seen people succeed without talent, money, and connections? I’m sure you have, yet something funny happens when you have a belief like this, you delete everything that doesn’t fit.
If you want to build a business and live a passionate life, you can. I’m here to tell you (and show you) that it is possible.
All you have to do is decide to take action and ignore the naysayers (that includes saying no to your own excuses).
If someone tells you that you can’t succeed, they’re lying, because they don’t have a crystal ball.
If they do, tell them Henri wants one, okay? 😉
How to Build a Business Around Your Passions
I’ve never liked making connections just for the sake of having connections, nor do I think I ever will. Hanging out with like-minded people is another matter altogether.
I used to like hoarding money, and I’m still scared that the well will run dry, but I’m more relaxed. So what if it runs out? If it does, I’ll deal with it then.
In the meanwhile, I’m going to focus on making my lifestyle business better and enjoying life as much as possible.
I think everyone is (or can become) talented at what they feel pulled to do. It doesn’t have to be something you’re already good at.
For example, I’ve always loved writing, but I’ve never dedicated a lot of time to it until the past few years. When I built my first few websites half a decade ago, I wasn’t good, but I got better.
Hell, English isn’t even my native language, yet I enjoy writing in English more than Swedish, Finnish, or even Spanish.
Progress happens step-by-step. Sometimes you’ll ride a wave, and sometimes you’ll end up in the water.
It’s not about making progress and reaching milestones, although those are certainly nice, it’s about learning to do something you love and knowing that you will get there one step at a time.
Why does anyone want to do work they love? To me, it’s because I want to feel good, happy, excited, and love life.
Take action and let the rest take care of itself, because the only person you can control is you, then it’s up to the rest of the world to do what they do.
Your Choice: Succumb to Your Fears or Take Action
At this point, you have plenty of choices.
You can either let your made up excuses stop you from doing what you love, which makes no sense to me, but I understand it.
Or you can say “I’ve had enough,” and take action right now.
I don’t care what you have to do, as long as you do something. It’s not going to be perfect, and it might not even be brilliant.
And it doesn’t matter, because when you take action, you will feel empowered.
As you sit there reading this, thinking about what I’ve said, you’ve probably started noticing that you can change your life and mold it to your liking.
Even if you aren’t completely certain about it, yet, you can begin to imagine what it would look like, and that means it is possible.
You’ve probably tried to figure this out, but not been successful. It’s not all that easy. However, you have the answer within you, and you know it.
Do You Know the Simple Truth?
The truth is that you don’t suck at this. It’s that you’ve been very good at putting yourself down and not taking action.
Human beings are learning machines. We work perfectly. We aren’t broken. However, many of us have learned to do things in a backwards way, which is why you feel the pull to change things.
What I do is I focus on what I enjoy.
I like writing blog posts, so I write blog posts. I don’t enjoy writing sales pages for others, so I don’t, even if I think I can make money at it. I know that I wouldn’t be happy doing that.
This is a process. And it takes more time than you think, but less than you fear.
Time isn’t the problem, it’s the fact that you want to feel comfortable and safe. And that is something you will have to deal with as you get started.
A part of you knows you will get there, and that parts wants to pull you forward.
But you’ve also had a part that has tried to keep you stuck. You know there is something better for you out there.
You feel it, don’t you?
Even if you don’t feel it right this moment, you’ll become aware of it soon, because it resides within each of us.
If you don’t have a successful business yet, that’s good, because it means you can learn. You’ve learned how to not take action, so you can learn how to take action.
You’ve learned how to feel bad, so you can learn how to feel good.
How fast you can build your business is not the goal, the goal is experiencing everything fully and learning as you go.
You don’t need talent, money, or connections, you just need to start.
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