When you think about going after your dreams, following your passion, and doing something you love, does it scare you?
If you’re anything like me, it scares you, a lot.
And it really freaks you out if you’re going after something that has meaning for you.
You’re afraid of failure, but what you may not realize is that if you don’t take action, you’ve already failed.
When you take action, at least you give yourself a fighting chance.
And always remember, you can’t fail if you never give up. Each mistake, each failure, and each setback makes you wiser.
Why You’re Scared (And Why It’s Good)
There are many reasons why you’re scared when it comes to going after what you want.
Here are just a few that I’ve experienced:
- What will people think?
- What if I fail?
- What if I’m not good enough?
- Where do I even begin?
- What if it takes too long?
The interesting part about our fears is that they are learned behaviors, like I mentioned briefly in my article: Do You Need Talent, Money, And Connections to Make Your Dreams a Reality?
For me, this has become more apparent than ever in the last year, as I’ve worked intensively on myself and with coaching clients.
To become afraid, you have to do it in a certain way.
If you’re afraid of failure, you make internal representations (pictures or sounds) of you failing horribly and everything going down the drain.
If this sequence is disrupted, everything changes. It’s like cooking, if you mess with the ingredients, the end result changes, and it doesn’t taste the same.
This means is that you have control, because if you’re making yourself afraid, you can make yourself unafraid.
3 Quick Tips for Dealing with the Fear
With all that said, let’s bring this all down to earth and look at what you can do.
I use the below tips in my own life, and they work beautifully for me. Take whatever resonates with you.
Many claim that nothing works for them, but what I’ve found is that they aren’t willing to try. They aren’t willing to take action. They love their “stuff” too much to let go and grow.
When you try to think through your problems, you end up in thought loops, which is why I recommend you write everything down.
Take a blank sheet of paper (or open your favorite word processor) and let everything out. And by everything, I mean everything.
Write down every petty thought, complaint, and excuse that pops out. The purpose of this is to clear your mind.
When I do this for 30 minutes, my mind becomes clear, and new ways of seeing things emerge.
If you want to truly make changes in your life, learn healing modalities like EFT or NLP. I especially recommend the YouTube channel for FasterEFT. It’s weird, but it works.
I often tell people exactly what they can do to let go of old emotions, but they want a quick-fix and they aren’t ready to hear it. Are you?
The truth of the matter is that you can change, even if you believe you can’t. You can feel better. I know, because I have done it, and I have helped others do it as well.
Last, but definitely not least is to work with someone. It doesn’t matter who it is, as long as you trust them, and they know how to help.
There are many healing modalities available. Try as many as you can and see which one works for you.
We don’t receive the user’s manual for the brain when we’re in school, so we have to figure it out for ourselves. The sad part is that most people don’t, and they believe that what they think, feel, and do is unchangeable.
But it can be changed.
Step Into Your Future
Imagine for a second that it’s 20 years from now, and you look back at your life. What you’ll notice is that it’s not the fears that you remember, but what actions you took.
You don’t even remember other people’s opinions, because you only remember what is important.
Are you going to let your obstacles hold you back, or are you going to take action?
The fact is that you don’t know what will happen. You don’t know what your failures, mistakes, and setbacks will teach you in the long-run.
I’ve discovered that the worst moments in my life were my greatest teachers, and they made me who I am today.
Life isn’t easy, but you always have the power to decide how you will deal with it.
If you let your fears control your life, it will lead to settling for less, and when you settle for less, you will be miserable, because deep inside you know that you are so much more than your fears.
That is what you should really be scared about.
But you don’t have to go through all that. You can make the decision to take action right now.
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