It’s easy to look up at the people that are more “successful” than you and believe that they’ve got it all together, but do they really?
Not too long ago I thought so, but not anymore. As I’ve started climbing the ladder myself, I’ve realized that just because I make a living online and have a certain amount of subscribers, I’m still me.
When you’re on the other side of the fence, the grass will always look greener, because you never see the personal struggles people go through, and the fears they have to deal with.
So often we go around believing that the fears we face are unique to us, when in many cases we all go through the same whirlpools of fear and drudgery.
Lately, I’ve been feeling frustrated and scared, which is normal. These feelings come and go, just like a roller coaster goes up and down.
The interesting part of it all is that all of the bad stuff led to a breakthrough, which I’ll reveal in just a sec.
We aren’t indestructible robots who keep chugging along until success comes along. We have feelings. Sometimes things go well, sometimes they don’t. That’s just a part of life.
Because I’ve been doing more consulting in the last week, I’ve noticed the same stuff popping up in my clients over and over again.
The bottom line is this: If you’re feeling frustrated, confused, and scared, know that you’re not alone, and know that it’s completely normal.
I’m right there with you. I fall to the dark side from time to time. I want to make more money. I want to progress faster. I have no idea where I’m going, or if what I’m doing will lead to anything.
I tell myself that I’ll never make it, and I ask myself why everything has to be so hard.
Even though I’m a very aware person and I know what’s going on inside, I still get caught up in my thoughts and allow them to wreak havoc on my inner space.
What I want to get across here is that we all go through these periods, and just because you are where you are and I am where I am, it doesn’t make it any different.
I’m human and you’re human. The people who are already making a living doing what they love, they’re human too, and they have their ups and downs as well.
An Interesting Twist
The funny thing is that even though I know that the frustration will pass, I still get caught up in it, and I want to do something to change it.
What I’ve learned though is that the best way to deal with it is to take a time-out and let it be there.
A question you may want to ask yourself is: “What if it was okay to feel what I’m feeling now?”
Make space for it, and notice what happens.
I am in the same boat as you. Sometimes I have no clue what I’m supposed to be doing, where I’m going, or who I am. It goes in cycles, and within the past few days, all of this has started to clear up, just like it always does.
Everything comes and goes, except that which you are, which is the unchanging awareness behind this drama we call life.
The bad news is that when you’re in the middle of the storm, you feel like you’re never going to get out of it, and once you’re out, basking in the sunshine, it doesn’t feel so bad.
If you’re completely oblivious of these cycles and how they work, you can end up sabotaging what you’re doing.
The more you go through the fear, the overwhelm, and the confusion, the better you get at dealing with it. My way of dealing with it might not be your way.
In a way, I find it extremely liberating to be completely open about what I’m going through as I build a business around this blog. If you’ve read this far, I know you’re resonating on some level with what I’ve said.
There are too few people talking about what really goes on when you go against the status quo and start following your own path. It’s not all roses and dipping apples in chocolate, but it’s also not as bad as we make it out to be.
We cannot know what the future holds. When you really sit down and think about it, you don’t need to know what the future brings. You’ll never know what you’re going to do for the rest of your life.
When I really look at life, I see that I’m not living life, life is living me.
The decisions that need to be made just happen. Whatever plans I make usually go right out the window when it makes contact with reality.
I know you want life to be clear and to make sense, but that’s usually not how things work on this planet. What I have noticed is that when you start taking action and doing what you can, you’ll gain more and more clarity.
I went through a rough few days, but I knew what I was going through. I freaked out just a smidgen, but I got through it, and before I knew it, a few pieces of the puzzle fell into place, and my journey continues…