Are you discovering that you don’t like your friends anymore?
Something just doesn’t feel right.
You may no longer have the same interests.
If you’re into personal growth, you may at some point notice that you’ve outgrown some or all of your friends.
This is to be expected. Even without inquiring into the nature of who we are and how things work, friends will come and go.
It doesn’t make you better than your friends, it simply means that a chapter has come to an end.
Letting go friends can be difficult, and it can go back and forth until you realize that there’s nothing there anymore. The friendship doesn’t feel magnetic.
There can be a feeling of loneliness as you transition from one group of friends to another. You may wish that you could go back.
A longer period of not having friends may even happen to help you look inward and wonder what this life is about, and who you truly are.
If you notice fear, grief, sadness, feel them fully. If there is resistance, allow it to be there, and then welcome whatever is being resisted.
Outgrowing your friends is difficult. There’s a sense of loyalty. There’s an idealized image of how it should be, and how we should grow old together.
This is a limitation that we put on life.
Life dances and evolves.
Stay focused on what resonates with you. If you want to stay home and explore who you are, then do that. Listen to your heart, and listen to what feels magnetic.
This topic of outgrowing relationships includes family. If you don’t vibe with your family members, you don’t have to spend so much time with them.
While this may sound harsh, it’s the truth. Listen to your heart. It requires courage and no one says it’s easy all the time, but in the end, it is the right path to travel.
Notice that everything unfolds at its own pace.
You may want to force a certain idea onto life, but does it work? Even these ideas come from your personality, genetics, society, and everything you’ve taken in during your life.
This all happens by itself, so let life live through you. You can relax and enjoy the ups and downs.
It’s all okay.
Use this as an opportunity to begin to listen to your body saying yes and no. How does it communicate with you? Does it feel like expansion and contraction, or like something else?
Begin to trust that you have what is needed to navigate this life.
And in reality, it’s not even you having something, but it’s built in, it’s included.
Every person in your life is there for a reason. In the end you have to ask yourself what feels right for you.
If you don’t like your friends anymore, then you don’t like them. You aren’t abandoning your friends. You are simply being aware of the energy shifting.
You may feel bad about cutting your friends loose, but if you’re not happy with where you are and who you are spending your time with, it’s time for change.
Now, having said all that, this is a learning process, so even though the focus in this article has been about letting go, your growth can also lead to a greater sense of connection with the friends you have.
Nothing is set in stone.
Enjoy the ride 🙂
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