There are times when I feel like nothing is happening.
I don’t know what to do, or what’s coming.
Sometimes it even feels like my life is falling apart.
However, deep down, I know that something is building up. It always is.
Just because I feel like nothing is happening doesn’t make it so.
Life is constantly changing. There is always something bubbling beneath the seemingly still surface.
I used to resist these times
And to be honest, I still sometimes do.
I can try to force progress, but if I do that, I spin my wheels and waste energy.
So I’ve learned to relax, to look at what it is I feel drawn to do. Because even when I feel like nothing is happening, I still feel drawn to do something.
The key then is to allow myself to relax. To look at what feels interesting right now. And to enjoy the journey ahead of me. I don’t know what’s coming next, and that’s exciting.
Here’s a short video with me sharing how I deal with these times.
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These times are opportunities for change
I haven’t felt like working much in the past few months. I didn’t feel like writing this article, until I made a few changes.
I noticed that I had been using a structure that was too rigid in my writing. So I conducted an experiment. I wrote without a structure.
To my surprise, the words came. And before I knew it, this article was done.
Now, this doesn’t mean I throw out structure forever. It means that I’m learning to be more relaxed, more flexible.
I notice self-imposed rules, and I learn to let go of them when needed.
Here are 3 things that help
It can feel agonizing being stuck in place where nothing seems to be happening, so here are three concrete things that I’ve found helpful:
1. Surrender. By surrender I mean to simply let life be as it is. It is when I resist life—and think it should be something that it’s not—that I suffer. The suffering is self-inflicted. I’m not saying that I feel great when I surrender. Sometimes I feel depressed. Sometimes I don’t feel like doing anything. I do my best to surrender to whatever comes up, to not cling to what it all means.
2. Investigate. It’s easy to get stuck in the stories we tell ourselves. That’s why I investigate what’s going on. If I feel bad for a prolonged period of time, I take that as a sign to look at how I’m doing that. I wrote about how I do that here.
3. Have fun. Even when I feel like nothing is happening, there’s always something I feel drawn to do. I take these quiet periods to explore things I find fascinating. I might read, watch movies, hang out with family, or try out a new hobby.
So while I may feel uninspired, I can still enjoy life. And it’s exactly this willingness to be open to whatever comes that makes this easier.
We don’t see the whole picture
It’s easy to say that nothing is happening, but that’s conjecture, isn’t it?
It’s an assumption, a half-truth.
I can’t know what’s happening in life, and what’s not. I can only think that I know. I can think that nothing is happening. When I think that, I feel stuck.
Knowing this helps me relax.
So take this time to relax
There’s no need to push, because life takes care of itself.
The more I push, the more exhausted I end up.
However, the more open I am during these times, the more willing I am to look inside, the more I learn about myself, and about life.
It always seems to come down to the same thing: Do what you can with what you have, and let go of the rest.
We put so much pressure on ourselves, and for what? To get somewhere? To become someone?
The ends do not always justify the means.
So learn to enjoy this moment.
Learn to follow your inner GPS, because that is what will lead you to a fulfilling life.
And remember, something is always happening, even if you feel otherwise.
P.S. If nothing is happening in your life, you may want to check out my book Follow Your Heart: 21 Days to a Happier, More Fulfilling Life. It might give you something interesting to much on, and might even transform your life, like it has for so many others.