Should I do this, or that?
Should I follow my passion, or should I take the “safe” road?
Our lives are made up of decisions.
How you make those decisions determines your life.
But it’s not just how, but from where you make decisions.
That’s what many people miss.
They may achieve success, but without following their inner authority, they may never achieve satisfaction.
Make Good Decisions — The Video
So how do you make good decisions both in life and business?
In the video below I share my story, and what I’ve learned from helping people with this.
(The article continues below the article. Both the video and the article complement each other, so I recommend you watch/read both).
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How to Make Great Decisions
Making decisions isn’t about figuring things out with your mind.
It’s about listening to your inner GPS, to what feels alive to you.
This isn’t about formulas, or even guidelines. This is about you listening to the wisdom within you.
When you are ready to listen to your inner authority, your life will change.
There are three things that come to mind when I think about how I make decisions.
Let’s have a look at what they are.
Making decisions begins with listening to yourself.
I used to look outside for answers. But I’ve since come to realize that the only person that can help me live a fulfilling life is myself.
And when I say I, I don’t mean my mind. I mean my inner wisdom, my heart, my gut.
When someone asks me if I want to do something, I focus my awareness inside, and notice how it feels.
However, I’ve noticed that it takes time for me to gain clarity, especially on bigger issues, like buying a house, or making a change in my business.
If you’re like me, you’re impatient. You want things to happen now. You want the answer yesterday.
I’ve learned the hard way that pushing and forcing doesn’t work, so I’ve had to learn how to wait.
When I tell people about the power of waiting, they often reply: “I don’t want to wait, I have things to do.”
This isn’t a regular kind of waiting where you sit around doing nothing.
I can wait to gain clarity on buying a house, while I’m working on a book. I have plenty of things to do.
But what I refuse to do is rush a decision. I can feel when I’m ready. I have no idea how long it’ll take, but I know when the process is finished.
It’s almost as if life is living me.
Decisions happen when I get out of the way. Solutions pop up from nowhere.
Many talk about taking control of your life, and while that appeals to my mind, I haven’t found it to work.
Even when I’m ready to make a decision, there may be doubt, fear, and worry.
We’re talking about two different beasts here: mind (head) and wisdom (body).
It’s taken me years to get to a place where I trust my wisdom. When something feels right, I go for it.
So while this may sound like a formula, it’s far from it. This is what my process looks like most of the time.
Sometimes it looks completely different. I go with the flow.
The only thing I am loyal to when making decisions is listening to my inner GPS. That’s it. I am the expert on my life.
And you are the expert on yours, even if you don’t always feel like it.
A practical example of this was when I was working on my book Do What You Love.
When you work on a book, you make hundreds of small decisions.
Should you rewrite or remove a sentence?
Should you add an example?
After a while, you don’t know what to do. So you take a break.
I’d worked on the book for months. It was almost done, but it was in the digital drawer. I was letting it simmer.
After almost two months, I began to wonder: “Will I ever finish this book?”
I didn’t try to force myself to work on it. I wanted to. Instead, I waited for the right moment. And funnily enough, the right moment came a few days later.
I felt drawn to read the first few chapters. The result of that was me rewriting and finishing 30% of the book within a few hours. And within a week, the book was done.
It’s hard to share how I make decisions, because it’s not a formula.
I wish it was. I wish I could make this easier for you, but the difficulty is a part of the learning process.
There are plenty of people selling formulas, but do they work?
Not for me. Not for most of the people I’ve spoken to.
What works is discovering your own process, your own wisdom.
You don’t do it all at once. You do it one decision at a time.
And you make plenty of mistakes.
Hope you have a fantastic day!
P.S. If you want to dive deeper into making decisions from your heart, check out my book, Follow Your Heart.