We’ve all been there.
You gobble up books, courses, blogs, seminars.
You do everything in your power to find the key to lasting happiness.
Yet it seems to elude you. You try harder. You put in more time. And you end up exhausted.
You want to give up, but you can’t, because you think this is what you have to do to live life to the fullest.
But the truth is that searching isn’t going to give you the answers you seek.
Happiness is not a technique. It cannot be given to you by someone else.
The Problem We Face
It seems easier to keep searching, to look for answers outside of ourselves.
What’s hard is listening to yourself, to your heart, to the whispers of your soul.
You’re bombarded by advertising, peers, friends, and society. You’re told to live life a certain way. You’re told that if you follow a certain set of guidelines, you’ll end up happy and successful.
But it’s not until you realize that you alone have the answers that your life begins to change.
This doesn’t mean becoming fearless, or being able to make perfect decisions. It means looking inside, and learning how your inner GPS communicates with you.
So the problem isn’t that you need more information. The problem is that you’re unwilling to use what you already have.
Experiment Your Way to Happiness — The Video
Before you continue reading this article, have a look at the short video below. It’ll help you take this in deeper.
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How to Experiment Your Way to Happiness
“The only real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes but in having new eyes.” — Marcel Proust
Somewhere, somehow we’ve lost trust in ourselves.
It’s almost as if we’re hardwired to look outside for answers. Yet you’re equipped with your own inner GPS.
I can’t say how it communicates with you, because I’m not you. But I can say that it does communicate.
Here are three steps that have helped me:
1. Uncover Your Patterns
We all have patterns that distract us from our heart.
The more you know your fears, the smaller the chance that you’re caught off-guard.
For example, one of my fears has to do with security. If there’s a sudden problem, say with our car, I overreact.
I start worrying about money. Even though I’m aware of all of this happening, it still gives me a jolt of fear.
Since I’m aware of this pattern, I don’t act on it. I notice the fear, and I let it be. I don’t make decisions from that state of fear.
When I’m in fear, I’ve lost connection to my inner GPS, so I wait for clarity to return.
Getting to know my patterns has taken years, so don’t expect it to happen overnight. Simply start by noticing how you react to life, and where you react with most fear.
More often than not, there’s a theme that keeps popping up in your life. It might be relationships, self-worth, identity, or like in my case, security.
And remember to not take this too seriously. Relax and simply notice what’s going on.
2. Re-Establish the Connection
Re-establishing the connection is nothing more than listening for what feels alive to you.
It’s rarely big.
It could be a book you’re interested in, or finally starting that blog you’ve thought about for the past two years.
Just like the GPS in a car, your inner GPS doesn’t give you the whole plan, but simply nudges you forward one step at a time.
And once again, this doesn’t happen right away. Don’t try to perfectly follow your heart, because that’s another trap.
Conduct tiny experiments. When I first discovered that I could follow my heart, I didn’t entirely trust it. So I took small steps, and I noticed the results.
With time, I’ve seen that my heart, my inner GPS, knows where to go. Today, I trust it completely, but it happened slowly, over years.
Dance with the problems that come your way.
Get to know yourself. No self-help program can tell you exactly what to do, because they don’t know you.
You know you.
The more you run away, the more you seek, the more lost you become.
Today, I listen to my heart. I don’t try to make things happen, because it’s draining. The right information comes to me when I need it.
And I know it’s right because it feels alive.
So dance, because why not?
Should You Stop Learning Then?
I’m not telling you to do anything. I’m simply pointing to the authority within you. I’m nudging you to listen to your inner GPS, instead of looking for answers outside of yourself.
If you feel like taking a course, then by all means do so.
In the end, you have to conduct your own experiments. You have to find what works for you.
Learn as much as you want, but avoid learning from a place of anxiety.
“Stop leaving and you will arrive. Stop searching and you will see. Stop running away and you will be found.” ― Lao Tzu
You have what you need to navigate life.
You just have to be willing to listen.
You may not know how your inner GPS works, which is why you experiment. Experiment your way to happiness, purpose, and passion.
I don’t know what the future holds, and I don’t have to know.
All I have to do is keep listening to my heart, and take the next step.
Cheers from a Frosty Finland,
P.S. If you need more help following your heart, your inner GPS, check out my book: Follow Your Heart: 21 Days to a Happier, More Fulfilling Life.