I’m not good enough.
I don’t know what to do.
Everything feels overwhelming, and I’m ready to give up.
That’s what I’ve been feeling these last few days, and I know you can relate, because every human being on this planet goes through these periods of agony.
It doesn’t matter how successful you are. Success doesn’t give you immunity from humanity.
During periods like these, I want to catapult myself into bed and hide under my sheets. And it doesn’t help that the sheets smell nice and are fluffy.
One of the problems today is that people aren’t honest enough. They have no problem telling you how much money they’ve made, but when it comes to feeling like a failure, they keep their lips tight and their fingers in their pockets.
It makes it all seem like you shouldn’t feel the way you do. But the truth is that whatever you’re going through is normal.
I’ve come a long way since I started actively going after what I wanted at the age of 16, but I still have days where I wish things were easier—a lot easier.
Why Does This Happen?
I wish I knew why these periods of agony occur, but I don’t.
All I know is that they do. They almost seem like periods of cleansing, because when they are over, I feel clearer and more inspired.
It’s only when I try to fight what’s here that days can expand into weeks, but I rarely do that anymore, so I’m often through the woods in a few days.
We don’t need to know why. We just need to know how to deal with it effectively, so it doesn’t ruin our lives.
Many fellow passion seekers have thrown in the towel because they’ve misinterpreted their thoughts and feelings.
Your Thoughts, or Just Thoughts?
When I’m in the midst of the despair, I’ve learned to notice how chaotic my thoughts are.
The more I identify with my thoughts, the more I suffer.
What I’ve experienced more and more is that we are not our thoughts.
Sure, thoughts and feelings happen, but we do not have to get caught up in them.
You can check this out for yourself. Notice the thoughts that are here right now, and also notice that you are the presence which is aware of the thoughts, you are not the thoughts themselves.
Thoughts could not exist without you.
Thoughts have no power unless you focus on them. I’m not saying that you should ignore your thoughts, just that you can be more aware of what you pay attention to, and that you don’t have to get sucked up in the drama.
Just having an intellectual understanding of this won’t help you, because those are just more thoughts. What will help is when you experience it for yourself. The easiest way to do that is to be intensely present and intimate with the present moment.
Yes, even when you feel horrible, especially when you feel horrible.
This topic has been fascinating me to no end lately, so I could go on, but I’ll leave it clean and simple for now.
The Solution to the Despair
In the past, I’ve dealt with these kind of days by trying to push through them. I’ve tried forcing my way to success, whether I liked it or not.
I never even considered that I could take a break.
When I feel like giving up, I’m not productive, and I don’t make good decisions. Whatever I do just breeds more of the same.
I’ve been exploring the Sedona Method a lot lately, and so far I really like it. I love diving into the world of personal development and discovering what works.
In essence, my solution is simple: I take a break, and let myself experience whatever is going on inside.
I surrender to my thoughts and feelings. Instead of trying to resist and fight them, I welcome them, and let them be as they are.
I’ve noticed that the way I feel becomes a problem when I want to change it, because that’s where the fight begins.
The way most people deal with negative feelings is by running away to food, sex, TV, drugs, alcohol, video games, or whatever your favorite thing happens to be.
I am no different, but I’m getting better at staying here and now (as if I could ever leave the now).
Life happens the way it happens. I went through a rough few days, but I’m feeling inspired and ready to take action now.
I know that these kind of days happen from time to time, so I don’t try to avoid them. Instead, I embrace them with open arms and do my best to be with them.
The ride is much smoother that way, and often what I’ve labeled as negative emotions bring lessons and gifts with them.
All I have to do is be open to them.
Not always easy, but always worth it.