Asking the right questions can transform your life.
The questions you ask yourself and others often determines the response you get. Ask your mind why you’re such a failure and you will receive an answer.
Shifting your questions to being more results oriented and dare I say—positive, will change your life.
I’m sure if you think back to the interactions you’ve had and the observations you’ve made, you’ll notice that different people ask different kinds of questions.
People that are already living the life they want didn’t get there by asking themselves why they’re so horrible.
They instead asked how they could achieve what they want. As with any growth-related activity, you will run into plenty of nay-sayers and people that try to limit your personal development.
When these people start showing up at your doorstep, look at it as a sign that you’re doing something right. They are there to tell you that your growth is making them uncomfortable.
At this point all you have to do is keep going.
There’s another kind of nay-sayer that you’re probably familiar with, and that is the one you have inside your head. The one telling you that nothing ever works for you. You couldn’t possibly reach your dreams and do what you want.
We all have that voice inside of our heads. What I’ve found to work quite well is to mess with it. You did know that you could do that, didn’t you? After all, it is your brain.
The next time you hear that voice in your head, try changing its voice, location, volume and even picture if you’re aware of it. You can do anything you want. You can even tell it to stop. YOU are in control, but only if you claim that power.
That voice in your head responds to questions as well. Ask any question and it has to answer it. “What would it sound like if that negative voice in my head sounded like Sylvester the cat?”
Interesting, isn’t it? The options are limitless.
7 Ways to Use Questions
1. Law of Attraction. If you want to utilize the Law of Attraction it’s all about the vibration you put out. Questions can help you fine-tune your signal. Let’s take a classic example of a certain amount of money in your bank account, or even having all of your bills paid. Ask yourself “what would it feel like if I had all my bills paid?”, chances are your feeling will completely change. There’s no need to worry about your bills all day, it’s not going to make them go away. In fact, it might even bring more of them to your doorstep.
2. Changing your mood. How often do you feel like you’re stuck with a feeling? If you’re like most people, it’s pretty often. You can easily change your mood. There are still a lot of people out there that like feeling bad. If that’s you, I’m curious: why are you torturing yourself? I also like using EFT, but asking a question can be just as easy. Let’s go back to our pile of bills. They’re stacking up and you feel bad. Again, reverse the situation and ask yourself “what would it feel like to have all my bills paid?” or “what would it feel like to be completely abundant?”
3. Visualizing. How often do you get stuck when you visualize? It’s almost like the software in your brain malfunctions (Microsoft Windows, is that you?). Asking questions to guide your mind will help eliminate this stuckness. Most people don’t believe they can even visualize properly. Realize that we’re all different. I mostly feel my visualizations. For some of you, you’ll know exactly what I’m talking about, but for others, not really. Everyone can visualize, so use it to your advantage.
4. Enhancing feelings. When you’ve felt a change, bask in the feeling and let it build. Get curious about how your body feels. If you really want to take it to the next level, ask yourself this simple question “how would I feel like if this feeling was 10 times stronger?” You can exchange 10 with any number you want. Experiment and find your magic number. I like to start at two and keep multiplying until I feel too good to care.
5. Solving problems. When we spent a year in Spain, and when we moved there, there have been a lot of things that needed taking care of. It was like a mini-problem circus was in town. By asking questions like “how can I solve this effectively?” and “can I do anything about this now?” I was able to remain somewhat relaxed while solving all the incoming tasks.
6. Being creative. Have you ever experienced writer’s block or just feeling creatively jammed? We’ve all been there. An easy way to snap out of it is to ask the right questions. When I’m writing an article, I have a few questions I like to ask myself. It’s easy to overlook the basics of a subject that you’re familiar with, so ask yourself what you’re writing about, what are the common problems, how can it be used practically (if it is that kind of article) and what are your experiences, just to name a few off the top of my head.
7. Staying focused. There are several ways you can approach increasing your focus with questions. You can go with a question like “how would I feel if I was completely focused?” or you could use something along the lines of “how would I act if I was focused?”. Different people will react to different questions, so trust yourself and for gods sake, experiment. I am just throwing out examples, so do not think that they are the only questions that work. I constantly change the questions I ask myself depending on how I feel. The more you do this, the better you’ll get.
How to Start
Once you’ve gotten used to asking yourself questions and noticing the change in your body, you won’t need the crutches that I am about to give you. Nowadays when I ask myself a question, I feel the change instantly in almost every case.
As you read these tips, implement them and get used to them. That way you’ll actually use them. Try them out now, so you have them memorized and can play with them later today without needing to reference back to this article.
Close your eyes. Switch your focus inward and take a few deep breaths to relax. At this point you could go longer and just keep focusing on your breath for a few minutes to really get in tune with how you’re feeling. There are no rules, so make everything up as you go, that’s what I do.
Feel your current feeling. When you’re relaxed you will be able to actually feel what you’re feeling. Often we’re blocking our feelings, because we’re so used to resisting what is. Most people feel bad all day long, so they want nothing to do with their feelings. Notice what you’re feeling, even if it is bad and let it be there.
Ask the question. If you’re feeling worried about something, you can always reverse it by asking a question that will lead your mind in another direction. It’s completely up to you where you want to go from here. You could even ask yourself one of my favorites “how would I feel if I was the most awesome person alive?”
Feel the change. When you’ve ask a question, you’ll notice a change in your body. It may be gradual in the beginning, because you have to warm up your mind to the fact that you’re actually using your feelings now, but it’ll be there. As you keep playing with this process more, you will become more powerful ;).
Have you ever wondered why good feelings seem to pass faster than negative ones? The human brain doesn’t value good feelings, because they don’t have any problems to solve.
Negative feelings however are problems that need to be solved. If you have a huge pile of bills, your mind will naturally want to think of ways that you can get rid of them. Many people drive themselves insane by indulging their mind in this behavior.
Remember, there’s no need to keep problems in your head if you can’t take action on them. We have to re-program our minds to appreciate good feelings. Whenever you create a good feeling or stumble upon one, bask in it, enhance it and enjoy. It’s like taking drugs, but without the adverse side-effects.