We all have our excuses. They feel unique to each one of us, but in reality, we all deal with the same core excuses.
Excuses are imaginary walls standing between you and your dreams.
They can keep you from writing that book, picking up your guitar, starting a blog, or traveling the world.
If following your passion was easy, everybody would skip right along to the good stuff.
The more real your excuses seem, the more you’re onto something meaningful. It’s a sign that you’re on the right path.
Now, let’s have a look at the eight core excuses.
1. I Don’t Have Time
We all have the same amount of time to work with. Some have demanding corporate jobs. Some have hungry mouths to feed. Others seem to have all the time in the world.
But that doesn’t mean that you should let time stop you from doing what you want. So what if you only have 15 minutes per day to work on your passion?
If you don’t start now, when will you?
It’s easy to believe that if you had more time, you’d make more things happen, but reality doesn’t work like that.
You see, there’s something called Parkinson’s Law that states: Work expands so as to fill the time available for its completion.
What this means is that even if you have more time, you tend to fill that time with the same amount of work.
I saw this happen in my life when I started working full-time on my business. I had more time on my hands, but I didn’t get more done.
But this shouldn’t keep you from taking action. You can always find time to do what you want. It all depends on how badly you want something.
If fear keeps you from doing something, then time is a handy excuse, isn’t it?
2. What About My Family, Friends, and Kids
When you embark on your path to greatness, there will always be people that, often unknowingly, stand in your way.
It’s not personal. They oppose you because you’re challenging their beliefs. You’re showing them, through your actions, that you can follow your heart.
Often when you’re just starting, you’ll be alone, because no one believes you can do it. You have to be willing to stick out the inertia of the beginning stages.
The journey may be brutal at times, but the harder it gets, the more you grow.
As you move towards your passion, some of your friends will naturally fall away. They may not be a good fit anymore, and that’s okay.
The only real thing you can focus on is where your heart is taking you. The rest is up to life.
3. I Don’t Know How
Making your passion a reality seems difficult, especially when you start bumping into all the technical hurdles.
The good news is that there are plenty of tutorials, guides and mentors out there that are more than happy to help you out with whatever problems you face.
You can easily find the information you need. You may not know how to do everything right now, but you can learn.
I didn’t know how to do any of this when I started in late 2006, but I now make a living doing what I love, while feeding my family. All those tiny steps add up.
I gradually learned how to build a business. I had a tornado of doubts and fears whirling around in my head, but I kept learning one thing at a time, and applying what I learned.
I didn’t wake up one day knowing what to do. No one gave me a map.
All I got was a blank piece of paper and a broken pen, so I did what I could, and began scribbling.
4. I Don’t Have Money
No money? Start with what you have, where you are.
Want to become a writer? Read and write a lot.
Want to start an online business? The upfront costs for setting up most online businesses are minimal.
In many cases, having limitations is an advantage, because you’re forced to cultivate skills you didn’t know you had.
The important part is taking one step at a time, even if you have no idea what you’re doing.
If you’re a writer, and you don’t have money, then write for money. There’s always a way, if you’re willing to start.
There’s always a step you can take.
The question is: Are you willing to take it?
5. I Don’t Know People
I didn’t know anyone when I started.
If you’re following your passion, and you’re taking action, the right people will be more willing to chat with you. If they aren’t, they aren’t the right people.
We’re all human beings, and we crave authentic connections.
Start with the people you feel like you would want to talk to if you weren’t building a business. Enjoy the process. That’s how you would want people to approach you, right?
6. I’m Afraid
Fear means you’re heading in the right direction. Life without fear would be like tacos without salsa.
Fear is normal when you’re doing and learning something new. Somehow, somewhere we’ve learned that we should be fearless. We forget that fear is a part of life.
We’re afraid of coloring outside the lines, so we never even try. But once you color beyond the lines, you discover that the world doesn’t fall apart. You discover that you can do what you want.
Fear is not there to be eliminated, but to be acknowledged. I’m not fearless. I deal with fear every day. I doubt myself. But I keep moving forward. How? I’ve trained myself to focus on taking the next step, instead of getting stuck in what if movies inside my head.
Fear will be there when you start.
Fear will be there when you’re successful. The key to overcoming fear is to let it be there, while gleefully coloring on the walls.
7. It Won’t Work
When I started my journey, I failed horribly. I spent $8,000 on coaching and even then I failed. Even with all these mistakes, I kept going, because I knew this was what I wanted to do.
Don’t get too caught up in results. Focus on becoming better at what you do. Put in the work. If you’re a writer, write. Write blog posts, write stories, write guest posts, and read as much as you can.
The better you become, the more valuable you are to others.
But you have to allow yourself to be bad at first. You have to let yourself have fun with not being great instantly.
It seems like we have to go through phases of struggle where we grow both in experience and in wisdom.
So yes, it may not work right away, but so what? When you’re doing something you enjoy, you enjoy it right now, not because of the fruits that it may bring.
I write because I can’t not write. Not everyone will like the results, but I will enjoy the process.
8. I’m Not Good Enough
Worrying is a habit.
Success isn’t going to change that. No external circumstance will.
The proof can be seen in famous people. They have the fame, the money and the success, but most of them are still searching.
Feeling like you aren’t good enough doesn’t make it true.
When I write books, I have moments where everything I write feels appalling. I keep writing, because I know that my thoughts are trying to deceive me. As long as I keep going, I improve, and that’s what matters.
Conclusion
Doesn’t it seem like you always stop when you get close to living your dreams?
Following your dreams takes the willingness to challenge your mind.
There’s always an excuse that seems to stop you from taking the next step.
I’m not saying you should force your way through. Sometimes taking a step back is what’s needed.
I’m saying to pay attention to how you hold yourself back.
You can always take the next step. It doesn’t matter where, or who, you are. You can always move toward your dreams, otherwise you wouldn’t be able to imagine them.
The question is: Are you willing to take the next step, despite the seeming boulder on your path?
All the best,
Henri
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Unbelievably awesome as always my friend 🙂
“I don’t have time” is a killer. But holy crap, how much time do we waste on useless tasks and crappy entertainment every day? I’ve been growing in productivity recently but I still haven’t reached a fraction of my potential full output, I know 🙂
Andrew
Indeed, indeed!
I’ve also noticed that sometimes a conscious break is necessary to recharge my batteries. During this break I do nothing but unproductivize myself, although I do end up doing productive things anyway, like learning a language.
Yup! 🙂 Did you read Steve Pavlina’s article about working one week then resting the next? I think this ties into what you’re saying quite well. I’m trying out something similar to this pattern just now.
I guess doing things like learning a language are fine because they don’t have this sense of almost stress which things that involve your security or your big, massively important life mission can have. 🙂
Henri,
Interesting that you wrote about this since I did today as well :). When people make the excuse that they don’t have time, that drives me crazy because it is an excuse. I’m amazed that people want their life to change, but can’t set aside even 30 mins a day to do this. Yet, if you look at their lives there are tons of things that waste time.
One of the things we’re blessed with today is the ability to connect to lots of people who are living the lives that we want to live. Not only that, they are all their to help and want to see people succeed. It’s one of the greatest things ever. i’ve spent a small fortunate on life coaching, internet products, etc and of course I’ve failed quite a bit before I succeeded. Good stuff in this post.
We all have our fair share of failures before successes start coming. We need experiences and failures to calibrate our sense of reality. Once it’s accurate, we start seeing results!
Hi Henri,
Yes indeed, the excuses we can come up with are endless. The bottom line is if we are not fueled by a burning desire we will be easily derailed. People will offer all kinds of advice on how to make money, become famous etc. etc. Anybody who has ever been at the top does not know how they did it until they look back. They were marvelously obsessed with their passion and did whatever it took to get there.
That’s exactly what I’ve experienced. Get passionate, get obsessed and let yourself be taken where you need to be taken.
Henri, I always say exactly what you did. We all have the same amount of time. We have 24 hours per day. It comes down to how are you prioritizing that time?
When people say “I don’t have enough time” I propose to them that they “choose not to spend their time in that way.”
Cheers on a great post
I realize that some people are more busy than others, but there are always ways to free up time to do what’s really important.
Thanks for stopping by, Joshua! 🙂
This post is kind of useful except for the part about no money .You said when you first started your blog you joined Authority Blogger , how can that help someone if they don’t have any money or very little money ? Pity you did not mention a few free or inexpensive resources to help those who may not have $8ooo to waste on training. Lack of money is not an imaginary thing. It can be very real difficulty.You obviously have never been in a situation where you or your family has very little money or have unexpectedly lost your source of income
Heya Rad,
Sorry about that. I presumed that most people knew intuitively how to find good resources.
If you want free training you can almost always find something through Google and tutorials through sites like YouTube and Tubetorial.
Henri,
It’s amazing how many of those excuses I’ve used. Once told my brain to shut up, I figured out how to utilize the tools available to me despite being 100% poor (negative hundreds of dollars in the bank) and have been chugging along ever since. I truly understand the no-money excuse and I’m living proof that you can overcome that and pursue your dreams at literally no cost.
This article really helped me realize how far I’ve come since I started this journey. Thank you.
Awesome stuff, Lex!
It’s good to hear from someone who’s been in the trenches and is still alive 😉
Great Post Henri!
I just think of how many times i have used these excuses in my life over the past few years! I think prioritizing your time is probably the most important thing. Once you are dedicated enough to set aside time for things you want to do and you are passionate about – i think the results will slowly start to flow!
Keep up the fantastic work and thank you to all the other posters as well as their words of wisdom are also very encouraging.
Richard
I’ll probably keep making excuses until the day I die. It’s not something I expect to get rid of, but being aware of how your mind works does help in making those leaps into the unknown.
Number Six can be solved by saying hello. They say the difference between, you and a stranger is your name. So just say hi, and now you have a friend.
Simple and effective 🙂
Henri:
What a wonderful post to bring everything into prospective. I think most of us, if not all of us, have suffered one or all of the situations listed above.
I think what we need to remember is we can work our way out of these problems, if we want something bad enough.
As far as what Blogging membership you joined or the amount of money you paid for coaching, I take your point as to say “Hey, the outcome was not cool, but I endured.” And Yeah for you…..many of us would have said “I’m finished.”
Psychology teaches us that we validate our reasons for failure, meaning we tell the story why we “didn’t “,until we feel confident that we were justified in our actions, or lack of action whatever the case maybe.
O.K. I’ll stop now, other than to say “thanks” for the words of encouragement.
Respect to all,
Peggy
Yup, the point I wanted to make with my failures and burning $8,000 was that you may fail horribly at first, but if you keep on keeping on, you may be surprised at the results.
Glad to see you sharing your thoughts, Peggy 😉
#1 is always a pesky thought in my head. I have to remember time is the common denominator, like you said, we all have the same amount of time. What I CHOOSE to do with my time is in my control and that is what I need to foucs on not what I cannot control
Henri,
Nice post and great blog – I’ve enjoyed getting to know you and your site today. I’ve, at some point and to some degree still am, experiencing and battling some of these very same excuses. Thanks for sharing..
Mike
Great post – I definitely have made/do make each and every one of these excuses to myself on a pretty regular basis. Sometimes I don’t even realize it! You definitely called me out.
Good list, I think you captured the most common excuses. I also want to tell you that the picture for today’s post is awesome. It’s a cool picture and captures the essence of today’s post.
I have had those excuses before. What helped me move past them is affirmations – every morning I “brainwash” myself into getting over these excuses
Great post! You really cover the gamut of excuses here. They are all very real though we can’t let them prevent us from taking steps toward our goals. We can always meet people and network, learn new skills, develop our ideas further, and develop self-confidence. I really like the point about not having enough time. You are very right, no matte how much extra time I have, I will tend to fill it with some form of “work.” Thanks!
Good list, and it has a lot to do with managing self doubt. It’s easier to make excuses for why you can’t try than to try hard and potentially fail.
On that note, I really appreciate you mentioning spending $8,000 on coaching! It’s really refreshing for a blogger to admit that some ideas don’t work out, and that you won’t be an expert from the start.
Very nice, and very well written. I love it-
Just to make things interesting, I guess I should add what MY personal fear is..
“Achieving Success”
….Sad right? Hahaha-
Not only that, but my whole life has been a very interesting one. One step forward, and always two steps back. I’ve never had an actual job, I’m 21 and I still live with my mother! Sadly, I’ve been working on making internet marketing a career for 5 years. I have not even seen a single sale to this date. Also have a very big problem with discipline… >_>
I’ll be sure to keep read up on everything you have to say- I’ve got this gut feelin’ it’ll do me some good!!
~Cheers!
Not sad at all, Kevin. The fear of achieving success is a very common one.
Look at it this way: you’ve found a lot of ways not to make a living online, which means that you’re getting closer to making it happen.
Keep rocking!
Wow, all those fears are mine. But, I’m going for it anyway. I love your site. Everything I read of yours hits home. I have already learned so much for you. Thank you.
Carolyn
Hey Carolyn!
I’m thrilled and grateful to hear that my writing has helped you!
Hi Henri,
Great post. Thank you. I love all the comments, especially that no one is quitting in spite of the obstacles they are having along the road to where they want to be. That surely includes me!
I just ghostwrote an ebook on well-being (my longest one so far, 37,000+ words). It was hard to keep going, but it also transformed me. It gave me so much confidence. Since I walked through that fire, I have begun to look forward to whatever fires I need to walk through on the way to where I want to be in making my chosen, cherished dream come true. I’ve never felt that, and I’m in awe and so grateful.
I learned two things in researching the book that will help me for the rest of my life, and I’d like to share them because they might help someone else. First, scientific studies in psychology have shown that we are “happiest” at the point where we are comfortable with what we know/are doing and reaching for something new (growth) at the same time. I guess that’s why we don’t quit in spite of the discomfort.
Second, this is from Dr. David Burns’ “The Feeling Good Handbook” — Successful people succeed because they have a mindset about obstacles that people who quit don’t share. It is that they expect obstacles, assume that they will be coming, and meet them by stepping up their determination to succeed and their activity. To them, obstacles are no reflection on their capabilities but a natural part of life. Many people who quit see successful people as having innate qualities that make them succeed and believe they themselves don’t have them. It isn’t true. The difference between people who succeed and people who don’t is a mindset, and that can be learned. Cool, huh?
Keep em coming, Henri. Good stuff!
Diane
Congrats on the progress, Diane!
Your two nuggets of wisdom were fantastic. I especially liked the second one about mindset. It reminds me about Carol Dweck’s book on mindset, and how some people see things as fixed (talent, ability, either you win or you lose), and some people have a growth mindset (failures are learning opportunities, etc).
It’s interesting (regarding your first point) that when we’re starting something new, we aren’t comfortable with what we know/are doing, and we’re reaching, which in turn means that the beginning stages of anything will be tough. But not tough enough that you have to give up.
‘It seems that when we get close to following our dreams, we stop.’
Hi Henri,
It is this phrase which resonates with me today, perhaps you could do a post of this very subject?
It seems that I am always feeling stopped from taking action on following my heart by some inner excuse or fear. It is almost like I have to give myself permission to shine before I can breakthrough into creativity! I have also used all the same excuses. Yes, I have ‘excusitis’! I must learn to trust my inner leadings and my right to follow them.
Thank you for a wonderful post.
Thanks Bev!
It reminds me of the Hero’s Journey in mythology, stories, and movies. We start off seeing the Hero/protagonist living a regular life, then something happens (call to adventure) where his awareness expands, but he is reluctant and doubtful. A good example of this is Luke in Star Wars. He sees the hologram of Leia needing help, but he doesn’t want to go.
Then an event happens that burns the bridges, or that changes everything. For Luke it meant coming home to a burnt farm, which made him determined to “fight evil.” I find it fascinating how closely real life resembles the Hero’s Journey.
This doubt we run into after finding a calling is normal. The event that made me determined to move forward was me becoming sick of my excuses. I saw myself hiding from life, and I decided to take the first step.
This cycle keeps on going. We expand our awareness, we run into doubt, we overcome, we bring back insights, and on it goes.
I started my blog about 2 and a half months ago despite feeling like my writing sucked. But in reality, no one has told me that, just positive feedback (they could be just making me feel good, but that’s besides the point), and even better, I just got accepted to write for Lifehack (totally didn’t expect this). I never knew I’d made so many connections with friendly bloggers as well.
It’s been such an awesome start of 2 months, and I can’t wait to see where this is going. Like Steve Jobs says, you can’t connect the dots moving forwards, only backwards. I’m glad I took action and started the blog and got to writing.
Great post, Henri. I do face #6 and #8 a lot.
Sounds like Steve Jobs knew what he was talking about. Keep rocking, Jeremy! 😉
What I’ve learned from anything in life is to stop putting off things that you want to do.
Hey Henri, Do you get down to Australia often?
Nope, never been to Australia.
I would never go to Australia due to their overpopulation of drop bears.I would like to experience the place if not for that.
We really are surrounded by excuses. It doesn’t make sense to me why it is our dreams and the passions we wish to pursue that we tend to make those excuses for.
Time and fear seem to be the ones to stick out to me. We all pretend that we have something more important to do, that our dreams can wait for other tasks the ‘must be done’.
I think this post can help a lot of people catch themselves making an excuse. Excuses are so common that we don’t even notice them anymore. If you can at least start to acknowledge when you’re making excuses, that is a big first step.
It helped me a lot when I read that we are all afraid of change, even good change because it’s all change. So, now that I know that, it’s a lot easier to “feel the fear and do it anyway” — but I still procrastinate. But my mindset is a lot better, and I don’t procrastinate for nearly as long.
Another spot on post Henri. I’ve experienced most of those – some I still experience (am I good enough for instance). Einstein is attributed with saying; ‘the definition of insanity is doing the same things over and over expecting different results’. Whilst this is true, and sometimes it ‘seems’ like we’re doing the same things – we have to discern if actually what we’re doing is ‘similar’ things persistently. That is what moves us forward. It’s a question I ask myself often. 🙂
What a great post! Thank you for sharing.
Thank you so Much for this article Henri 🙂 Have been following your blog posts for some time now. And they have helped me so much on My path. Please keep doing and being the person you are, because the world needs more people who are following theire heart and you are a shining light for the rest. Thanks ones again for a great article :))) It truly is not the easiest thing to follow the heart, but what if the soul don’t have any more options? 😉 It’s a must..however the path may evolve.
Thank you Henri,
You summed up and explained the excuses we get from others and see in ourselves EveryDay. I’ll use these in my life and my business.
Take care.
thanks. Great article. Totally agree. I would like to share this article on Facebook; make sure you implement Sharing buttons on your blog, Henri!
Hey Drew!
You can still share it on Facebook. Just copy the article URL into a new post, and voilá. Cheers!
Thanks so much for your article Henri! We all must learn to listen to quiet our negative thoughts and go toward are dreams without fear! Keep on doing the good work.
Ha ha, not only is the blog great but I’ve got so much out of reading the comments as well. I particularly identify with “The event that made me determined to move forward was me becoming sick of my excuses. I saw myself hiding from life, and I decided to take the first step.” Yep, that’s me, right there!!
But I’m moving forward now – 6000 words into my first ‘real’ ebook and loving it. I write between 300-500 words daily. Just enough to keep moving along without being overwhelming. Sometimes it’s more, sometimes less, but I don’t judge, I just do.
As ever, your passion and honesty are infectious Henri and thank goodness for that, because I caught big doses early on which continue to sustain my efforts today 😉
Thanks, Deb. It’s infectious to see someone follow their heart, so keep on going, because you’re inspiring more people than you know.
Such great points, Henri! Been there done that on almost all these points. But I think that once you jump over one obstacle, it’s so much easier to tackle the next and the one after that, and so forth. Now, I look back at before I got started and wonder why I didn’t take action sooner. Why was I so afraid of those obstacles? The thing is, taking action doesn’t have to be this massive commitment upfront. It could be a few hours a week – you’ll still be better off than if you never got started.
Absolutely, Camilla. After a while, you gain a sort of momentum. You start realizing that it’s your mind that gets in your way, and that you don’t have to take your thinking so seriously.
Hey Henri,
I’ve been digging out of a sizable financial hole that I got into a couple of months ago and I think I’m seeing a light at the end of the tunnel. Hopefully I’ll get my situation up to snuff by the end of November, which will free up some needed money to get a website up and running.
In the meantime, I’m still battling the fear of both failure and success, and the insecurity of not being “enough.” I know that these things are figments of my overactive imagination, yet at times they seem so real and powerful that I succumb to them without really realizing it. Taking a step back for a reality check helps to clear the crud.
I’m writing every day, working on blog posts that I’ll eventually publish when I get to that point. I’ve got faith that I’ll reach my goals, and be able to create the lifestyle that I’d like to achieve. I know it’s all a work in progress, yet it’s sometimes daunting to think of the totality of it all. One day at a time – one step at a time.
Thanks for this post and your incredible insights.
These types of excuses are what prevents people from achieving anything. They might have all the information they need to do things, but they don’t act on it, since they always make excuses. I find mindset is the biggest factor in any type of activity, whether it is fitness or something else. I keep getting friends asking me to give them tips in the gym, so I do, but most of them never implement them, since they always make excuses.
well-articulated and catchy. I found it very helpful and motivating. Thank you brother!
Hej Henri,
Excellent words!
I feel like I’m writing.
These words attracted me.
/**********
Excuses are imaginary walls standing between you and your dreams.
I didn’t wake up one day knowing what to do.
No one gave me a map. I had to figure things out. I had to pave my own path.
If you’re following your passion, the right people will automatically be more willing to chat with you. If they aren’t, they aren’t the right people.
Fear will be there when you start. Fear will be there when you’re successful.
The better you become, the more valuable you are to others.
Worrying is a habit. *******/
Mvh,
Ashok
Great article Henri! 🙂 right to the core! 🙂 cheers, Cristina
Very inspirational Henri! The one issue I am facing right now as a guy who makes a living online and works from home is the fact that I need to deal with people who barge into the house every now and then. It’s so frustrating! The main ones who barge in are my in-laws and sometimes friends of my wife. I think the only way is to shift my location to a distant inaccessible place.
Working from home was really satisfying to me as a single guy, but when in a relationship, you feel like a house husband and it can make you feel down.
How do you deal with this issue?
It’s not an easy issue, and you’ll have to find a solution that fits for you. A common option is to rent an office outside your house, where you can work. Or creating a room where you can lock the door and work undisturbed.
If people still barge in, then you have a different problem. People don’t do that in my life because I don’t allow those kinds of people in my life. Again, this is my situation. Find what works for you. Let the answer emerge naturally 🙂
Thanks for the reply and the suggestions! I have thought of renting an office but unless I have a couple of employees working there, I won’t be motivated to go there regularly. But somehow making this work seems to be the only solution as of now.
Yes, I have to let the answer emerge naturally. You are right in suggesting that.
My biggest excuse, which isn’t listed here, is always that I’m too tired. I’m too unhealthy and constantly exhausted, so it’s hard for me to think and do anything.
I know I have to overcome it, but it’s hard.
Shoo! My excuses were:
1. I have no support
I always tell people about what I want to do, but no one seems to support my plans. Because of that, I gave up.
2. I’m busy
I always find myself committed to what does not fulfill my inner self. As a result, I felt like I did nothing at the end of the day. I could not be happy with what kept me busy despite positive comments about the results of my duties.
3. I have no money
This one, Henry, you are like a prophet. I tell you, I always believed that without money one cannot do anything to achieve his dream.
Thank you very much for this article. You transformed my mind.
Needing start up money is a real issue.In my case its money for a second car and some tools, on the order of about $12K.I have invested what I have in learning materials, so right now I am in a holding pattern until some opportunity appears or I think of something.Not all business ideas can start on practically nothing.But the business idea does indeed feel magnetic to me, which was the initial problem.That one solved.