We all have our excuses. They feel unique to each one of us, but in reality, we all deal with the same core excuses.
Excuses are imaginary walls standing between you and your dreams.
If following your passion was easy, everybody would skip right along to the good stuff.
The more real your excuses seem, the more you’re onto something meaningful. It’s a sign that you’re on the right path.
Now, let’s have a look at the eight core excuses.
1. I Don’t Have Time
We all have the same amount of time to work with. Some have demanding corporate jobs. Some have hungry mouths to feed. Others seem to have all the time in the world.
But that doesn’t mean that you should let time stop you from doing what you want. So what if you only have 15 minutes per day to work on your passion?
If you don’t start now, when will you?
It’s easy to believe that if you had more time, you’d make more things happen, but reality doesn’t work like that.
You see, there’s something called Parkinson’s Law that states: Work expands so as to fill the time available for its completion.
What this means is that even if you have more time, you tend to fill that time with the same amount of work.
I saw this happen in my life when I started working full-time on my business. I had more time on my hands, but I didn’t get more done.
But this shouldn’t keep you from taking action. You can always find time to do what you want. It all depends on how badly you want something.
If fear keeps you from doing something, then time is a handy excuse, isn’t it?
2. What About My Family, Friends, and Kids
When you embark on your path to greatness, there will always be people that, often unknowingly, stand in your way.
It’s not personal. They oppose you because you’re challenging their beliefs. You’re showing them, through your actions, that you can follow your heart.
Often when you’re just starting, you’ll be alone, because no one believes you can do it. You have to be willing to stick out the inertia of the beginning stages.
The journey may be brutal at times, but the harder it gets, the more you grow.
As you move towards your passion, some of your friends will naturally fall away. They may not be a good fit anymore, and that’s okay.
The only real thing you can focus on is where your heart is taking you. The rest is up to life.
3. I Don’t Know How
Making your passion a reality seems difficult, especially when you start bumping into all the technical hurdles.
The good news is that there are plenty of tutorials, guides and mentors out there that are more than happy to help you out with whatever problems you face.
You can easily find the information you need. You may not know how to do everything right now, but you can learn.
I didn’t know how to do any of this when I started in late 2006, but I now make a living doing what I love, while feeding my family. All those tiny steps add up.
I gradually learned how to build a business. I had a tornado of doubts and fears whirling around in my head, but I kept learning one thing at a time, and applying what I learned.
I didn’t wake up one day knowing what to do. No one gave me a map.
All I got was a blank piece of paper and a broken pen, so I did what I could, and began scribbling.
4. I Don’t Have Money
No money? Start with what you have, where you are.
Want to become a writer? Read and write a lot.
Want to start an online business? The upfront costs for setting up most online businesses are minimal.
In many cases, having limitations is an advantage, because you’re forced to cultivate skills you didn’t know you had.
The important part is taking one step at a time, even if you have no idea what you’re doing.
If you’re a writer, and you don’t have money, then write for money. There’s always a way, if you’re willing to start.
There’s always a step you can take.
The question is: Are you willing to take it?
5. I Don’t Know People
I didn’t know anyone when I started.
If you’re following your passion, and you’re taking action, the right people will be more willing to chat with you. If they aren’t, they aren’t the right people.
We’re all human beings, and we crave authentic connections.
Start with the people you feel like you would want to talk to if you weren’t building a business. Enjoy the process. That’s how you would want people to approach you, right?
6. I’m Afraid
Fear means you’re heading in the right direction. Life without fear would be like tacos without salsa.
Fear is normal when you’re doing and learning something new. Somehow, somewhere we’ve learned that we should be fearless. We forget that fear is a part of life.
We’re afraid of coloring outside the lines, so we never even try. But once you color beyond the lines, you discover that the world doesn’t fall apart. You discover that you can do what you want.
Fear is not there to be eliminated, but to be acknowledged. I’m not fearless. I deal with fear every day. I doubt myself. But I keep moving forward. How? I’ve trained myself to focus on taking the next step, instead of getting stuck in what if movies inside my head.
Fear will be there when you start.
Fear will be there when you’re successful. The key to overcoming fear is to let it be there, while gleefully coloring on the walls.
7. It Won’t Work
When I started my journey, I failed horribly. I spent $8,000 on coaching and even then I failed. Even with all these mistakes, I kept going, because I knew this was what I wanted to do.
Don’t get too caught up in results. Focus on becoming better at what you do. Put in the work. If you’re a writer, write. Write blog posts, write stories, write guest posts, and read as much as you can.
The better you become, the more valuable you are to others.
But you have to allow yourself to be bad at first. You have to let yourself have fun with not being great instantly.
It seems like we have to go through phases of struggle where we grow both in experience and in wisdom.
So yes, it may not work right away, but so what? When you’re doing something you enjoy, you enjoy it right now, not because of the fruits that it may bring.
I write because I can’t not write. Not everyone will like the results, but I will enjoy the process.
8. I’m Not Good Enough
Worrying is a habit.
Success isn’t going to change that. No external circumstance will.
The proof can be seen in famous people. They have the fame, the money and the success, but most of them are still searching.
Feeling like you aren’t good enough doesn’t make it true.
When I write books, I have moments where everything I write feels appalling. I keep writing, because I know that my thoughts are trying to deceive me. As long as I keep going, I improve, and that’s what matters.
Doesn’t it seem like you always stop when you get close to living your dreams?
Following your dreams takes the willingness to challenge your mind.
There’s always an excuse that seems to stop you from taking the next step.
I’m not saying you should force your way through. Sometimes taking a step back is what’s needed.
I’m saying to pay attention to how you hold yourself back.
You can always take the next step. It doesn’t matter where, or who, you are. You can always move toward your dreams, otherwise you wouldn’t be able to imagine them.
All the best,
P.S. Do you want to learn more about how you can follow your dreams?
Then I invite you to check out my popular book, Follow Your Heart: 21 Days to a Happier, More Fulfilling Life.