Do You Need Talent, Money, And Connections to Build Your Own Business?

The Bench of Truth: Do You Need Talent, Connections, or Money?Do you sometimes wish you could forget about your dreams of building your own business and living the life of your dreams?

Does it seem easier to forget it all rather than to dive into the unknown?

There are people all around us living location independent lives and doing work they love.

For a long time, I looked around and I wondered why the grass always looked greener on the other side. A common mistake people make until they realize that it’s not true.

This perspective kept me caged for years. I didn’t feel good about myself, because there was always someone better than me. But was there really, or did my thinking make it so?

I often feel, even to this day, that I don’t have enough connections, talent, or money. But I’ve become aware of the fact that it doesn’t really matter.

Now, why do I say that?

Let’s stop and think about it for a moment, shall we?

What happens when you think that you don’t have what you need to build an online business around your passions?

You feel helpless and hopeless.

And you still want to build a business, right?

… So basically your main options are to feel bad, or take action anyway and figure the rest out as you go along.

I opted for the latter road, and it worked. I don’t focus on influential connections, talent, or money, and I do just fine.

This doesn’t mean I don’t make influential connections, it just means I don’t try to force them.

If I stop and let my fears take over, I know that I’ll regret it, so I don’t.

But I didn’t always have this courage to move forward. I was once a beginner and I still feel like one from time to time.

It’s not about perfection, it’s about progress.

Why Do You Think You Need Talent, Money, And Connections?

When I grew up, the people around me kept putting down successful people.

I was told that the rich and successful were lucky, had talent, connections, or a lot of money. At a young age, it seemed like I could never become truly successful, because I didn’t have any of those things, or I thought I didn’t.

People told me that it was okay to settle for mediocrity, because not everyone could have what they wanted. I believed that for a long time.

You have to be careful with what you take in, because people will try to hypnotize you all day long without even knowing about it.

They have good intentions, but they are not aware of the damage they are doing. Their truth is often a distortion of reality and may not even apply to you.

For example, where did you pick up the fact that you need something you don’t have in order to do what you want?

Think about it for a second. How have you been perceiving this to be true?

Haven’t you seen people succeed without talent, money, and connections? I’m sure you have, yet something funny happens when you have a belief like this, you delete everything that doesn’t fit.

If you want to build a business and live a passionate life, you can. I’m here to tell you (and show you) that it is possible.

All you have to do is decide to take action and ignore the naysayers (that includes saying no to your own excuses).

If someone tells you that you can’t succeed, they’re lying, because they don’t have a crystal ball.

If they do, tell them Henri wants one, okay? ;)

How to Build a Business Around Your Passions

I’ve never liked making connections just for the sake of having connections, nor do I think I ever will. Hanging out with like-minded people is another matter altogether.

I used to like hoarding money, and I’m still scared that the well will run dry, but I’m more relaxed. So what if it runs out? If it does, I’ll deal with it then.

In the meanwhile, I’m going to focus on making my lifestyle business better and enjoying life as much as possible.

I think everyone is (or can become) talented at what they feel pulled to do. It doesn’t have to be something you’re already good at.

For example, I’ve always loved writing, but I’ve never dedicated a lot of time to it until the past few years. When I built my first few websites half a decade ago, I wasn’t good, but I got better.

Hell, English isn’t even my native language, yet I enjoy writing in English more than Swedish, Finnish, or even Spanish.

Progress happens step-by-step. Sometimes you’ll ride a wave, and sometimes you’ll end up in the water.

It’s not about making progress and reaching milestones, although those are certainly nice, it’s about learning to do something you love and knowing that you will get there one step at a time.

Why does anyone want to do work they love? To me, it’s because I want to feel good, happy, excited, and love life.

Why else?

Take action and let the rest take care of itself, because the only person you can control is you, then it’s up to the rest of the world to do what they do.

Your Choice: Succumb to Your Fears or Take Action

At this point, you have plenty of choices.

You can either let your made up excuses stop you from doing what you love, which makes no sense to me, but I understand it.

Or you can say “I’ve had enough,” and take action right now.

I don’t care what you have to do, as long as you do something. It’s not going to be perfect, and it might not even be brilliant.

And it doesn’t matter, because when you take action, you will feel empowered.

As you sit there reading this, thinking about what I’ve said, you’ve probably started noticing that you can change your life and mold it to your liking.

Even if you aren’t completely certain about it, yet, you can begin to imagine what it would look like, and that means it is possible.

You’ve probably tried to figure this out, but not been successful. It’s not all that easy. However, you have the answer within you, and you know it.

Do You Know the Simple Truth?

The truth is that you don’t suck at this. It’s that you’ve been very good at putting yourself down and not taking action.

Human beings are learning machines. We work perfectly. We aren’t broken. However, many of us have learned to do things in a backwards way, which is why you feel the pull to change things.

What I do is I focus on what I enjoy.

I like writing blog posts, so I write blog posts. I don’t enjoy writing sales pages for others, so I don’t, even if I think I can make money at it. I know that I wouldn’t be happy doing that.

This is a process. And it takes more time than you think, but less than you fear.

Time isn’t the problem, it’s the fact that you want to feel comfortable and safe. And that is something you will have to deal with as you get started.

A part of you knows you will get there, and that parts wants to pull you forward.

But you’ve also had a part that has tried to keep you stuck. You know there is something better for you out there.

You feel it, don’t you?

Even if you don’t feel it  right this moment, you’ll become aware of it soon, because it resides within each of us.

If you don’t have a successful business yet, that’s good, because it means you can learn. You’ve learned how to not take action, so you can learn how to take action.

You’ve learned how to feel bad, so you can learn how to feel good.

How fast you can build your business is not the goal, the goal is experiencing everything fully and learning as you go.

You don’t need talent, money, or connections, you just need to start.

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Comments

  1. Words of wisdom from someone who’s been through those tough beginning stages. Thanks Henri for the inspiration, the more we read and share, the more we see that we all experience similar challenges and they all lead to the place. It’s so worth the time and effort I’m so grateful for sticking with it! :)

  2. Erick Cerda says:

    Thank you for sharing. These words come at a very critical time in my life. Over the weekend, I made a decision to take action. So, today, I will put all of the distractions aside and start creating the life of my dreams and writing down the things that inspire me. I am tired of the subconscious fear that has held me back. I choose freedom over fear through faith and inspired action!

  3. Henri:

    Thank you for sharing this. I hope this finds people like me and encourages them to continue in the direction they are pulled to go. You are an inspiration.

    Sarah

  4. Sometimes it feels like you can read my mind. I am so glad for this post because I thought I was the only one. I talked to other business-people and they all said the same thing that you have to have connections and money. From my family I always been told you need an inborn talent to succed in the world of business, and I didn’t try to sell my toys as a kid as natural entrepreneurs are supposed to do. Otherwise, forget it. I don’t like making superficial connections just for the connections sake either.
    So, thank you. I now know am not alone.

  5. This post is awesome!

    My biggest sticking point is perfectionism … even though I’m constantly saying to myself that “Doing is the highest standard of achieving” somehow I’m still struggling with it.

    Must be probably because I’m reading all of those articles on how to write good content on sites like Copyblogger. After reading those articles I always feel that my writing skills suck and so I get discouraged to write anything.

    Sure sites like Copyblogger, ThinkTraffic, etc. do hold a ton of golden nuggets but they can easily become a powerful source of distraction or even worse.

    Just my two cents.

    • A good way to get value out of other sites (and Wake Up Cloud) is to write down one thing you learn from each article that you can apply today.

      But always default to taking action!

  6. Wow! This article was right on Henri. If not your best ever, certainly in the top 10. You have such a relaxed, easy style of writing, but even when its long, every sentence has importance, which keeps me reading. You make the reader think, think about false beliefs they have had, and in such a simple, non-bullshit way. Cheers to you!
    Carolyn

  7. Henri,

    You have hit this subject perfectly. A common feeling that slows us down of stops us from achieving our dreams. You are a true motivator. I wish great success for you.

  8. Thank you for the inspiring article you wrote. Most of the times we envy those people who succeeded early in life and we felt so insecure. We would wonder where we are heading. But then you get to realize that you have your owh path to follow and this calls for recognizing who you are and what you can do. We want to someone else but deep in our hearts we cannot. It will always take time to realize that who we are is more important than getting there at the top without knowing what we can actually do.

    This article moved me and I just realized that I have been neglecting my blogs which I really wanted to grow and attract more readers. Really, the article made me think that I should always honor what I have at the moment. Cheers!

  9. How did you figure this all out at such a young age? You continue to amaze me–what you write about strikes such a chord. Thank you for sharing, Henri.

    • You know, Mary Anne, I really don’t know.

      I love what I do, and I constantly learn more about how I can improve my life in different ways.

      And when I do, all sorts of realizations and a-ha moments pop up. I get through bad periods, I learn from them, and I grow. I read, watch, and experiment, and I learn more.

  10. The Hungry Traveler says:

    Another well written post, my friend! “Action is the antidote to despair.” -Joan Baez

  11. Henri,

    Great article! It’s important to realize that you can accomplish so much if you just take action, instead of spending all your time and mental energy wishing this, wishing that, and chasing dreams.

    Cheers!
    Matt

  12. Wonderful post! I also feel that we gain momentum, confidence, when we do ‘succeed’ with our goal. No matter how small. Having success (what ever you see it as) gives us history that we can’t forget. Its something to look back on when we need to remind outselves that ‘it’ can be done. I lived with anxiety and fears about myself and money most of my life. But the evolution I began to experience 13 years ago has opened my eyes to the successes I’ve had and didn’t know it. I’m better than I thought! :) Entrepenuership has taught me that I can be very successful inspite of myself. I have fear, but the fear of not doing anything, is worse than the fear of actually going forward. And that continues today. Its an ongoing battle. Thanks Henri.

    • That’s exactly the experience I’ve had. We all have much more in common than we believe. It’s easy to think that we’re all alone with our fears, but that’s rarely the case.

  13. Erick Cerda says:

    Catherine, you are certainly not alone – I suffer from some of this paralyzing fear sometimes. I think mine is mainly due to recent set-backs that have made me question myself and fearful of taking another leap. Which is not like me since I have been very aggressive risk taker most of my life, I feel out of sorts in my current situation.

    But hang in there and trust that it is all happening for a reason – to build your character.

  14. Hey Henri, first off I want to say thanks for all the great stuff I’ve picked up from your writing. Been following the blog for a few months now, and a lot has resonated with me because you & I have a similar background.

    It inspired me to create my own blog, and it’s been great but now only a few months into it I’m already starting to step into the “Entrepreneur mindset”. Just started the first of 100 Stanford Entrepreneurial Thought podcasts I’ll be listening over the next 100 days, and will be looking to turn my baby into a proper business, so seeing you go trough it is very cool.

    Anyways, on the topic of the post- I think we live in a VERY special era where success is becoming democratized and accessible to just about anyone. If you have idea, a computer with an internet connection, and the drive to do something with it… good things will happen, regardless of your background. It’s really awesome! And no more “paying your dues” for the first few years of your career to get somewhere cool! What a great time we live in. Cheers!

  15. Im feeling empowered. Its been 4 long months since I’ve given myself excuses to not follow my passion. And now its time to take action. No matter how small, no matter how weird i need to take action. Im totally amazed that this article was here all the time and i never felt it spoke to me until now. You are a really great writer Henri. I hope you’ll write more of these empowering articles that will help teenagers like me to pursue our passion. :)