You feel like something is missing in your life, but the next step alludes you.
You see people living the life you want to live, but you don’t know where to start.
This was the exact situation I found myself in not too long ago.
I was a professional online poker player. I was making money, but it was sucking my soul dry.
I could feel my heart aching for nourishment.
I knew I could contribute to the world, but I doubted myself.
Looking back, there were five tips I would’ve given the Henri in the past.
Be honest with yourself.
Look at your expectations. You’re diving into something that’s completely new, which means that confusion will become your companion, at least for a time.
And since everything is new, you will stumble. You will feel overwhelmed, uncertain and scared. You won’t know where to go or what to do next. You’ll feel like you’re jumping out of an airplane without a parachute.
Those feelings are to be expected. But remember, you are not your feelings or thoughts.
On top of that, most people don’t realize that these seemingly “negative” feelings are signs that you’re heading in the right direction. You want change, and you’re changing. The bad news is that it isn’t laced with sugar.
Once you accept both the good and the bad, your life will change.
There’s no need to run from your emotions or thoughts. Face them head on, and invite them in. Otherwise they’ll invite themselves in.
Many try to find the perfect passion. The reason they never get anywhere is because they are trying to do the impossible.
Just like a kid in a candy store, you have to look at finding your passion as an adventure. There are a lot of different flavors available, and the only way you’ll figure out what you like is to start trying things out.
If you’re fresh out of college, this is even more important, because you have no idea of what you should expect from life.
That means you can’t make predictions, because you have no basis for those predictions.
In reality, none of us can make predictions about the future, so let’s just forget about that. All you can do is follow your excitement.
It’s when you move forward that you’ll “figure” things out. But you won’t really figure things out. It’s more that things will figure themselves out.
You don’t have to try so hard to figure everything out. Do what you can with what you have. That’s it.
When I create a course, I want it to be the best course in the world. I want it to be perfect.
Luckily, I’m also aware of the fact that I can only do my best, so I aim for good enough.
By doing this, I let myself relax, and enjoy what I do. I don’t force myself to do what I can’t do.
Letting go has given me access to a tremendous amount of energy. Instead of wasting energy on worrying and doubting, I focus on how I can help my clients, customers, and readers.
Don’t get me wrong, I still worry. I’m still human, after all. The difference is that I worry less.
Dealing with resistance means getting comfortable with it, allowing it to dance in your body. When you are at your most lowest point, you realize that all you can do is take the next step. You remember that everything else is out of your hands.
Perhaps it’s that way for a reason, who knows?
The next key is to manage your time well.
I’m talking about both how you use your time, and the tasks you focus on.
You don’t need complex time management systems. I use good old pen and paper. It works for me. I write down a few high-value tasks before I go to bed. When I wake up, I do my best to get them done. Sometimes I do. Sometimes I don’t.
When I started out, I tried to do things that didn’t matter, because I was afraid of focusing on what DID matter.
So even if you only have 15 minutes a day to follow your passion, it’s enough, as long as you focus on the right things.
And if you don’t know what to do, just start somewhere, anywhere.
If you’re in the candy store and have never tasted candy, it doesn’t matter where you start, because each taste is a learning experience.
This key is optional, but if you’re reading this blog, chances are you want to get paid to do what you love.
You want to craft a lifestyle where you’re making a positive impact on the world while loving the work you do.
In order to do that, you have to find the intersection between what you love to do, what you are good at (or want to get good at) and what people are willing to pay for.
It’s not easy.
It can be overwhelming.
But the first step is to start.
You’ve just entered the candy store. The next step is to dive in and explore. Break things, taste things. The owner won’t mind, because you are the owner of your own candy store.
Many marketers try to sell you a quick fix, but you and I both know those don’t work.
The only medicine for what you feel is hard work, and the willingness to face what scares you most.
And if you want to dive deeper into all of these keys, make sure you check out my premium course, Passionate Living.
You have to be willing to start before you’re ready.
The people living a passionate life started even though they were scared.
They didn’t know what the future held, but they did it anyway. You have to stop planning and start doing.
Think about the kid in the candy store. He doesn’t think about what the flavors might taste like, he just dives in.
You could say that adult life is different, but is it?
Are you saying you can’t take one step in some direction today?
You are the only one holding you back from a passionate life.
So think about the next smallest step you can take, and take that step.