How often have you set a goal, felt excited and ready to rock, only to discover a few weeks later that you feel worthless, miserable, and just want to lie on the couch, watch movies, and eat chocolate ice cream?
Probably more often than you’d like, right?
We all go through the same ups and downs. Freedom from this suffering comes through the realization of what it truly is.
And that is exactly what we will be covering in this article.
This isn’t your ordinary goal setting article. I will be looking at goal setting from a big picture view, and how you can listen to your inner compass to make progress that not only is fast, but feels right as well.
The Lies We Tell Ourselves
How we think about our goals very often has no bearing in reality. And the way you feel about your goals is no indication of how likely you are to reach them.
The reason you feel like your goals are unattainable is because you cannot imagine what the path will look like. You cannot see, or sense the steps you need to take to reach the finish line.
This is why taking one day at a time; one step at a time is powerful. When you’ve found your passion, and have started on your journey to a more fulfilling life, you will run into many obstacles, and you will be tested.
You will feel like giving up.
You will curse the gods for delivering all these impossible challenges to you.
But you will keep going, and you will overcome the challenges.
The Forgotten Key to Goal Setting
My way of goal setting is much more holistic than most. I frequently talk about this with my coaching clients.
The truth of the matter is that you do not have to know how things are going to unfold in order to get to where you want to be.
Now, this doesn’t mean that you do not break complex tasks down into smaller pieces. It means that you accept that where you think you will end up might not be anything like where you will really end up.
I struggled with this for many years. I tried forcing myself to go down the wrong path, because that’s what I thought I needed to do.
You see, what we overlook is that the goals we set for ourselves might not even be what we truly desire. When you allow your goals to be flexible and life to guide you, well … your life becomes effortless.
This does not mean it will be free from suffering, challenges, or pain. It just means that you will be led to where you need to be, when you need to be there.
5 Heart-Centered Steps to Achieving Your Goals … And Much More
There’s a lot of information out there on how to set goals, how to plan for them, and how to push through obstacles.
Very few people focus on the big picture. Most go after goals they do not care about, and they end up quitting because it’s just too hard.
When you have enough internal drive, when there is no other option, you will get there despite all the challenges you run into. It’s almost as if something outside of you is pushing you on.
You feel like you’re on the right track, and you couldn’t give it up for anything in the world. Those are the kind of goals that are worth pursuing.
Instead of leaving you hanging, I’m going to share my personal goal setting process, which is very simple, and not something I even call goal setting.
It’s simply how I figure out where to go next …
Listen to your heart. What do you really want? And by really I mean really. I’m not talking about getting a nice car, a big house, or a bucket of shiny gold coins.
I’m talking about the stuff that fills your life with passion, purpose, and excitement.
Let’s take an example from my own life … When I became a professional poker player at the age of 18, I worshiped money. It was everything.
I wanted enough money to be safe, and to have freedom in the future. It took me five years to realize that hoarding money wasn’t making me any happier, and that the freedom I was looking for didn’t exist.
That was when I jumped into my true passion, which is what I am doing right here. I realized that I could get paid to do what I was interested in, and so can you.
Security exists only in our minds. You can amass a fortune, but that doesn’t mean that you are immune to the unpredictability of life.
Billionaires feel just as insecure as you and me. They imagine themselves pushing a shopping cart, being alone on the streets … homeless. Anyone can feel bad with that image in mind.
It’s not your money, job, or possessions that make you feel safe, it’s your mind.
Once you have an idea of where your heart is pulling you, it’s time to take action. And it doesn’t matter if you’re confused, scared, or worried about the future.
You either go after the life you truly want, or you don’t.
You live, or you die.
My guidance comes directly from my heart. I often have no idea where to go, but by listening to my heart, and following my excitement, the path becomes clear, even if my mind isn’t.
Once you start trusting your heart, it will guide you to the information you need.
You may need to go through some tough times in order to accomplish your goals, but if you do, know that they happen for a reason.
All of the negativity in my life has turned into a valuable lesson as time has passed.
If you wait long enough, it’s impossible to know what is negative and what is positive. The positives turn into negatives, and the negatives into positives.
They dance, blend together, and form the adventure that we call life.
As you move along your path, notice where you are trying to force your way, and observe where resistance pops up.
This can be tough, because it’s hard to distinguish between fear and genuine resistance.
For example, when I did my first interview, I was scared, but I knew it was the right thing to do.
Your path won’t always be clear, and your heart won’t always be responsive. The reason is usually because you are drowning in your own feelings.
But that’s okay, too.
You experience what you need to experience.
If you stay too rigid with your goals, you will run into resistance and excuses, and you will feel like you are running out of steam.
While ups and downs in motivation are to be expected, there comes a point where you run into a wall, which is when you have to be still and listen for the next message from your heart.
Adjustment has been my constant companion as I’ve been traveling down the path of making a living doing work I love.
It’s all too easy to get caught up in your mind, to start blaming, worrying, and scaring yourself from taking action.
5. Rinse and Repeat
Goal setting is fluid.
I like to stay organized. I like to break big goals into smaller, more bite-sized pieces, but I also like to stay aware of the big picture.
This is my process, not yours, but you may want to borrow parts for your own creation.
Whatever works for you is what you should do. There are no right and wrongs in goal setting, in life, or in business.
We need to start listening to ourselves. For far too long we’ve been slaves to the imaginary rules of others.
You are your own teacher.
We know what we want, but we are often too afraid to go after it.
The World is Waiting for You
This post grew from a small piece to something much more than I imagined. It came straight from my heart.
Goal setting is something I’m passionate about, because my take on it is radically different from most others out there.
That is not to say that my way is the best. There are different options available because different people resonate with different methods.
What I like now will change in the future. I accept that.
If your goals feel unattainable, use it as a reminder to go inside, and listen to what is going on.
We all have something deep down that we want to do, share, or be.
What’s your thing?
And why haven’t you started yet?