When You’re Afraid of Making Mistakes

Are You Afraid of Making Mistakes?

If you make a mistake, you could ruin your chances of living the life you want.

One single mistake and you’re done.

It’s essential that you get everything perfect before you start.

Right?

Not really.

Somewhere along the way, we took a wrong turn. We learned to believe that mistakes are to be avoided like the plague.

We should be perfect in whatever we do. But you know what?

These beliefs are killing your progress. You should never be afraid of making mistakes.

If there’s anything you should be afraid of, it’s not making any mistakes at all, because it’s a sure-fire path to failure.

Why Making Mistakes Seems Scary

Anticipating mistakes and knowing what might go wrong is all fine and good. But when you lose control, it becomes a problem.

As human beings, we’re experts at tuning into potential threats.

However, when you’re building a business around your passion, you’re exploring new territory, which means you have no idea what to expect.

And that means that your internal radar will come up with threats that do not even exist.

Even worse, once you’ve come up with an imaginary threat, you tend to imagine what consequences it leads to if it would happen.

It all seems real, yet it has no bearing in reality.

Making mistakes seems scary because we create horrible scenarios in our head.

And it’s all thanks to the imaginary expectations we’ve set-up.

The Cold, Hard Truth About Making Mistakes

If you’re not making mistakes, you’re not experimenting enough, which means you’re not making as much progress as you could.

Building a business is a fascinating journey. It helps you create something that supports your lifestyle and helps you grow as a person.

Every day, there are new fears to face, new technology to learn, and new boundaries to destroy.

You’re not on this planet to succumb to your fears. You’re not made to hide in the closet when imaginary monsters lurk under the bed.

You’re here to face your fears and boldly go where you have not gone before. But you have to make an internal shift first.

You have to stop taking your excuses seriously.

That’s when things fall into place.

You can only do your best.

Take action.

And learn from your mistakes.

How to Take Bold Action

You can only do what you can do. Life is way too important to take seriously.

So what if you fail?

You’ll keep taking action until you succeed.

Your fear of making mistakes will probably never go away completely. It’s ingrained in us as human beings.

It’s normal.

It’s a sign that you actually care about the work you’re doing (or want to do). Taking action means embracing imperfection.

You’ll never learn everything.

You’ll never eliminate risk.

You’ll make plenty of mistakes.

But so what?

If you want to do what you love, then it’s time to stop giving away your power to your fears.

They are nothing without your consent.

It’s time to set sail for a new destination.

Destination: Relentless Determination

It’s time to make the shift from prisoner of your fears to relentlessly pursuing your dreams.

When you truly become sick of being controlled by your fears, you become relentless.

It happened to me, and it will happen to you.

It’s like in the movie, the Matrix. When Neo realizes he is The One. He suddenly sees the Matrix for what it is. He embraces his true power.

And that is exactly what happens when you reach relentless determination. No obstacle can stand in your way.

You’re too determined to let anything hold you back. You keep moving forward, no matter what.

If you don’t know where to start, you’ll learn.

If you’re afraid of putting yourself out there, you’ll do it anyway.

If you come up with excuses, so what?

The secret is that there is no secret.

There is just pure determination.

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Comments

  1. Lau'ren'tay says:

    Well said/written

    In order to grow & accomplish things in life; we have to be willing to make mistakes even when we are afraid.

    We’ll never how far we can go the distance, if were afraid to take the hits in life.

    You have been willing to take hits & keep moving forward like a boss.

    I find it incredibly easy to forget that making mistakes; along the way will teach you so much in achieving what your striving for, than if we never take the leap of courage.

    Great Posts Henri :)

    • Agreed. Making mistakes isn’t fun, and I’d rather avoid them, but it seems pretty impossible if you want to get stuff done.

  2. Spot on Henri,

    This bit… “When you truly become sick of being controlled by your fears, you become relentless.”

    Is exactly what made the cut for me.

    One day I just woke up and I was so tired of myself that I just couldn’t believe it.

    Even I, was tired of thinking I can’t, I’m scared, what if it doesn’t works, what if people laugh at me, I had dozens and dozens of virtual walls.

    Then I just said “screw this, I’m gonna do it”. And that’s when I started putting myself out there. Started recording myself on video, recording audios, publishing everything on the blog.

    It was so wild that people were excited, even more excited than me.

    Then after a while I kind of started liking it and started getting better.

    My videos certainly weren’t the best, heck, they are not even good right now but I’m not scared of doing them anymore.

    I embrace mistakes, my own fears, my challenges, then after a while, it becomes part of ourselves.

    It’s crazy but that’s how it has been for me.

    Thanks for the nice summary man. It’s really cool that you described a lot of what has been happening to me in high detail.

    Can’t wait to see what’s next, take care.

    Sergio

  3. Henri,

    I love the movie references. :-D I’m an original series Star Trek fan. And I often feel like Leo having a day life identity and a night life identity since I’ve told nobody at work what I’m up to while trying hard to build something that will allow me to escape.

    I take action by practicing mindfulness when I feel fear. Mindfulness brings my focus back to the present moment instead of listening to the stories my mind is creating about the future. Sometimes, by coming back to the present, an actionable doable step presents itself.

    And each time I finish a doable step, I create more confidence and find additional steps are easier to take. And the nice thing about this method is you can “rinse and repeat” however many times fear reappears and threatens to make you stuck.

    “Screw this, I’m gonna do it.” Yeah. Me too.

    • I completely agree on the mindfulness part. I do that a lot whenever I’m overwhelmed, frustrated or just plain stuck.

      Stay with the feeling, let it be, breathe, and relax. It makes all the difference. There’s nothing worse than trying to figure things out when you’re in a negative state of mind.

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